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Many folks feel like they have to say yes to everything that comes their way, and it can leave us overwhelmed. Setting boundaries and prioritizing your well-being is crucial for your mental and emotional health.
1. Be honest and realistic about your capacity.
First, be honest with yourself and others about what you can handle. Recognize your limits and understand that you have limited time and energy. You can’t say yes to everything, and that’s OK. It’s all about prioritizing what truly matters to you. Trust me, once you’re honest about your capacity, you can make better decisions about where to direct your time and energy.
2. Offer alternatives.
If possible, when you say no, try to offer alternatives that can still be helpful to the person. Maybe suggest someone else who could assist them or propose a different solution. This shows you care about the other person’s needs even if you can’t meet their request.
3. Build your “no” muscle.
Saying no can feel strange or awkward initially, but it’s all part of the process. Take baby steps by saying no to small requests or situations that won’t have a huge impact. As you gain confidence, you can work your way up to saying no to bigger commitments. And remember, saying no isn’t selfish—it’s an act of self-care.
A tip from James Clear:
If you'd like to get better at sayning no, try this:
Keep a list of things you say no to. Whenever you ignore a distraction or turn down an opportunity, add it to the list. As the list grows, you begin to feel a sense of accomplishment for your ability to say no and remain focused on what matters.”
You can even try channeling your inner Meghan with her “no” mantra:
4. Give yourself grace.
Sometimes, saying no can make us feel guilty or afraid of disappointing others. Show yourself some compassion and give yourself some grace. While it can feel uncomfortable, it’s OK to prioritize your own needs and well-being.
Other helpful resources for saying no:
- Say no to anything that doesn’t align with your purpose.
- Sarah Knight gives us ten tips for saying no.
- Josh Spector helps you create a “no” template to send to folks.
Remember, it’s OK to put yourself first and say no when necessary. By following these tips, you’ll develop healthier boundaries, protect your well-being, and make space for self-care.
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